Labor Day, for me, is a double edged sword. It represents the end of summer (my favorite season of all), but also one of my few week days off. Being that the end of summer is near, it was time to celebrate by doing something especially “summer timey.” So, what did I do besides standing in the ungodly long lines at Wal-Mart?

Yesterday, my dad and I spent a little quality time at a local water park. It started out mostly cloudy, but the sun came out about halfway through the day. It was perfect weather, and the lines weren’t too long. We ended up being more cold than hot! Still, we had a fun day. Since we didn’t bring a water proof camera, I’ll have to show you my souvenir from the day:

The ever so slight tan lines. The culmination of all summer outdoor tanning.

Hmmm… and I thought sticky notes were only for saying “I love you.”

In the beginning of our relationship, I was spanked with a belt quite frequently… Then after we attended the Shadow Lane party last August, and picked up a new “toy,” the paddle became the most frequently used implement in our collection.  Well, just recently, we decided to bring out the belt… and we’ve been using it more frequently.  So I said, “I thought the belt was for really serious stuff,” and he replied that because I really didn’t like the paddle, “the paddle is the new serious.”

Do you have an implement that gets used only when it’s really serious?  Is it because it’s your least favorite implement, or for some other reason?

Wow! I can’t believe I’ve posted so little this month. Ever since I got a full time job (in addition to my night job, blogging, and a new idea I’m trying to start up), I’ve been running around like crazy trying to maintain my normal day-to-day stuff. My to do lists lately have been looking more and more like this:

That’s right, I haven’t even had time to get spanked! (Well, OK, there was that one time…)

Anyway, I am off again, this time maybe to nap, but I will be back soon! (Maybe if I have the right motivation, I will post tonight.) ::wink::

Has anyone seen this?

We have our own version of this. It’s called “slap bottom.” Hehe.

A few days ago, I wrote about spanking and sex. There I address more of the “no” side to the question of spanking being sexual. I got a lot of great comments and I wanted to respond to them in a new post instead of buried beneath comments and new posts. So, here goes the “yes” side of that answer.

I think at the core of it, it is arousing. Even if a spanking really hurts and doesn’t overtly get me excited, there’s a part of it that is sexual, or else I don’t think it would be a part of our relationship. Two thoughts emerged from your comments that I want to take a closer look at.

1. Do you ever spank after sex?
2. Why do we do things to try and avoid a spanking?

The first question leads to the “yes” side of spanking as sexual, the second, “no.” To the first question, I would answer with no, and I would imagine that most people would too. After sex, a spanking seems redundant. Given that most people would use sex to climax, it seems a logical order that spanking would go first if sex was to be included.

On the other hand, spanking can be a tool adults use for behavior modification or just general discipline. In that case, the excitement that would come from a normal spanking would be far from the picture. I think Brett articulates the difference, and the role that sexuality plays well in his comment:

Spanking is sexual for me, but discipline is still discipline. The interest in non-sexual spanking is sexual, if that makes sense. When it’s about punishment, the focus is on why it’s happening, and that isn’t sexy or frivilous. When it’s happening, it’s not fun to punish someone who isn’t having fun. When it’s over, then the feelings of extreme closeness when she’s at her most vulnerable, and that’s a more general feeling of love rather than to have sex. It could actually end there if it’s not part of a sexual relationship, though I have no experience with that. The thought of it is still sexy, and as part of a sexual relationship, she’s even more attractive to me having had a spanking. Women who want discipline like that in their lives are more attractive to me, so it is definitely sexual.

Then there are those times that a disciplinary spanking excites me. I’ll do something by accident or just be in a bad mood, and it will get me spanked, and later, I’ll think “wow, that was hot.” And that’s enough for me. I don’t need the sex to follow or for something sexual to happen before, during or after the spanking for it to be a “hot” moment. Perhaps it’s the situation and the way in which I’m quickly swept up and taken in hand, that is a turn on. But I think that is another post entirely!

Thanks to everyone who responded to the “spanking and sex” post.  I am working on responses to all your comments and I will be posting on the subject again soon.

In the meantime, I hope you enjoy my (yet again) new theme.  I think this one will finally meet my needs.  Other than a few adjustments, it should stay like this for a while.

And now I am off to take care of some chores and avoid getting spanked. 

I was preparing a post for another topic when I found this gem. It was a picture that the camera took on the timer before I was ready. Think I would have gotten spanked for throwing this one away? Hehe.

Last week, I had a conversation with a vanilla about my interest in spanking. I explained that there were other things, besides sex, that were the key to my “womanly pleasure.” It seems like once that can of worms is opened with someone, their curiosity is sparked and the rest of the night you’re entertaining questions. So, later, when I told him I also got spanked for everyday discipline, not just foreplay, he was flabbergasted.

I’m often asked if spanking is sexual for me. The answer to that is yes and no. As a general rule, we use spanking for discipline and do not incorporate sex. It’s my thought that to do so is more of a reward than punishment and is counter to the goal of correcting the bad behavior. Despite this, spanking can be a very intimate act. Submitting to someone and baring my bottom is an expression of trust, and knowing that the person cares about me and has my best interest in mind, even while they are spanking me.

Disciplinary Spanking

And nowhere to go. I am batting 1000 today!

I decided to play dress up in my favorite theme….

Don’t I look innocent? Tee hee hee.